Great Bridal Showers

Old Lace Tea Party Theme

White Hand Pearled Alecon Lace Guest Book and Pen Set

Tea parties have changed over the past several years…in the days of the 1800’s women wore long lacy dresses, beautiful bright jewels, and showy hats…the tea parties of today are nothing like they were then, so why not recreate the tea parties of the olden days by hosting an “Old Lace” party.

Get your guest excited about this shower by sending Victorian-style invitations wrapped in a lace handkerchief modeled after the calling cards of 1800s society…a simple white card with the affianced’s name in gold on one side and a handwritten request in fountain pen on the reverse. Make the message concise and alluring but convince the recipient to come to a formal tea in old lace at a date and time and location given. Request everyone bring a copy of a wedding photo from their parents or grandparents as a gift for the bride.

If this is a secret surprise, say so, and ask the ladies to leave things behind that might break the illusion, like cell phones, pets, or children, if possible. The hostess should include her name and number and an offer to answer additional questions by phone.

The basic plan for the party is for the group to sit around large tables talking and laughing while having a fancy tea party with friends and family. Pick a nice space for the event and decorate it with all the grandmotherly formal niceties you can think of… lace tablecloths, fancy napkins, nice centerpiece, china, silver, and crystal. It could be a provincial English High Tea, a hearty Scottish tea, a precise Japanese tea ceremony or even a coffee klatch….you can have biscuit cookies, little cakes and fresh fruits at the party…if you need kitchen helpers, costume them as the assistant/butler/maid and ask that they stay in role for the entire party.

Incorporate low-volume music appropriate to the mood and fresh flowers and prepare a small memento for the guests. Buy a flowery scrapbook to display engagement announcements and letters of congrats to the bride, setting aside a section for a guestbook of the event and another for the thank you notes expected afterward. Add additional pages ahead of time if you have relevant pictures or souvenirs, or just create chapters in this book of love like “First Date” or “The Proposal.”

There are many variations to this type of shower that you can do, but whatever you decide you will feel as if you were living during the 1800’s.

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